Sunday, 1 July 2018

Self Care isn't always buying a £50 candle to treat yo self.

I am totally for self care. As someone living with depression, anxiety, IBS and endometriosis I have to take care of myself. Lately though I feel like a lot of bloggers and companies have used the word to sell you things.  It's been thrust into our face after months (and possibly years) of living in a culture where being tired and busy is worn by everyone as a badge of honor. Oh, you only get six hours sleep? Darling Maggie Thatcher got through on 4. Oh you work 50 hours a week? Well I work 60, run a blog, compete in triathlons AND I am a michelin starred chef. Not just amongst bloggers although thats where I mainly see it, its happening all around us in real life too. Soceity seems to have taken the message that women can have anything and chenged it into women SHOULD HAVE EVERYTHING. You know we are expected to hold down full time jobs, keep a house looking like its been pulled straight out of good housekeeping and look like a catwalk model while doing it. 

When I type "Self Care" into youtube there is 12,300,000 results. Most of them suggest things like the latest lush bath bomb, writing in your expensive journal and burning a jo malone candle. I am not saying there is anything wrong with these things if you enjoy them, but actually they are selling you a lifestyle. I feel like as a 27 year old woman I can see that my life wouldn't magically change by owning these things, but 15 years ago things would have been totally different. I remember thinking once upon a time that I would be so much cooler at school if I could afford a Jane Norman bag (I got one for christmas, and I still didn't fit in!) 

A lot of these videos also talk about clearing a day in your scheduele each week/month. Well not everyone can do that. I am very lucky that I get to chose my own shifts at work but there are plenty of people out there that work full time and have secondary commitments such as caring for relatives or children. I honestly think that these videos can do the opposite of what they are promoting. If you are a working person on say 15k (like I am) and you are constantly comparing yourself to a full time youtuber who a. has a lot more disposable income and b. is sent these £40 candles to review you are going to make yourself feel a lot worse.

What I am trying to say here is that self care is something we should all be doing, but it doesn't necessarily involve spending money. If you enjoy having a bath (like I do personally) with lush products, oils and a huge glass of expensive wine then do it. Just don't be fooled into thinking that these people aren't being paid huge sums of money to sell you something in the name of your mental health. I generally worry about the number of teenage girls growing up in this culture. I have talked before about how I feel like the lines between having anxiety and feeling anxious have been blurred and I really feel like we are going down the same route with this. 

I am going to be focusing a lot more on saving money and one of the bloggers I have really admired is this one from Cait Flanders. She talks about how we get into debt for our mental health and I feel like the self care trend will be pushing people down the same route. When I have been at the lowest points with my depression I know I have spent money I should have been saving on days out, beauty products, meals out, all to try and perk myself up and it just doesnt work. I wasn't doing it consciously and it is not until after the event in retrospect that I can rationally see this. 

Also self care is such a personal thing. I know that going for a long walk is helfpul for me when I am feeling like hiding away, however if my IBS is also in a flare the anxiety that would be cause by not knowing where the nearest toilet is would far outweigh the benefits. I also enjoy writing my feelings down but I can do this, for free, online and don't need a specific expenisve journal to do so.

What are your views on the latest trend for Self Care?

Charlotte Lucy.

Wednesday, 6 June 2018

Im Back ... And I am about to kick my money habits ass.

My name is Charlotte and I spend too much money. I also haven't posted on this blog since October last year and so I am a little rusty. 

For months now I have been looking at how to fit in, in a blogging world where I felt like I was constantly questioning my standards, feeling like I didn't know what I wanted to write about but knowing that writing seemed to help. Then I remembered how happy I felt at the money bloggers conference last year surrounded by bloggers talking about saving money.

So, with a few goals in mind I thought I would start a money diary here. Starting next Monday every Monday there will be a money diary. I will be documenting everything that I spend and also everything that I want to buy but didn't. I am taking part in a no spend this month on *things* so no clothes, shoes, books, magazines etc you get it I'm not buying it. 

Im also hoping to put at least 50% of my weekly earnings into my house/holiday savings. I am doing a nursing degree and I graduate in 2021 and I'd like to be able to buy a house within 6 months which may be a bit optimistic. Especially due to the fact that I refuse to give up my holidays. Nursing is hard! if I am going to get through it without going completely insane I need a week of sun each year!

Are you on a savings journey? Id love to read other blogs


Monday, 23 October 2017

Beauty Under A Fiver: Superdrug nourishing sock pack

I have long been passionate about budget beauty and skincare. For a long time I used to read blogs solely for the fact that they would tell you what products were worth spending your hard earned pennies on. Unfortunately I feel a lot of bloggers have been won over by brands and lost a little bit of touch with reality. I saw a post recently that said that they classed a budget cleanser as anything under £50. I understand that people have different budgets, but to me that is ridiculous! I work full time in the NHS and while I love my job, the pay is horrendous. I want my skincare to be cheap and effective. So every Monday I will be bringing you a budget beauty post. Luckily I have a huge stash to shop (I am a hoarder) and so I will be reviewing all of the products I already own, along with the off purchase along the way.

Firstly I want to bring to you the Superdrug foot nourishing sock pack. I was sent these a few weeks ago as part of my self care September but due to cutting my foot open on a broken plate (blame my cat) I was delayed in using them. Anyway, I finally decided to use them as part of a pamper evening and I was so glad that I did! They feel a bit weird when you put them on ... imagine one of those gloves you get at the petrol station in a sock shape and filled with moisturiser! However, I put both my feet in and secured them with the tab and put my feet up for 20 minutes while watching TV. I washed and dried my feet as per the instructions so they were ready for the mask

I used the peppermint ones and they felt lovely and cooling on my feet. I did need the toilet at around the ten minute mark and had to walk very carefully to the bathroom as they were rather slippy however I managed! When I took them off I massaged the excess moisturiser into my feet. They felt so soft and definitely a treat for my tired feet! I think I am going to use them weekly from now on! 

They are usually priced at £1.99 but at the time of writing these are currently on offer here for £1.49 AND you get a free tote bag when you purchase them! They will more than likely be featuring in my empties regularly at this rate! Although I am going to try out a cheaper brand to compare so watch this space ...

Tuesday, 12 September 2017

What I thought of the Curve Fashion Festival

Outfit Details:
Top New Look
Skirt Boohoo but bought second hand
Converse vintage Vintage Scene Leicester 

On Saturday I made my way up to the Curve Fashion Festival at the Liverpool exhibition centre. Ive wanted to write a post for ages about how fashion is so much more important to me since embracing my body, but thats for another day.

Walking into the hall with anxiety was a huge deal for me. I spent most of the morning on the toilet, hyperventaliting thinking about whether to just get back into bed, but I am so glad that I didn't. I put on my tulle skirt, my cats are forever tee and my favourite vintage converse , pulled up my big girl pants and off I went.

I arrived just in time for the how to be an influencer chat with Body Posi Panda and Grace Victory, and I will admit I was completely star struck. Megan was exactly as warm in real life as she appears on her instagram and blog. They talked about the blogging industry and actually spurred me on to keep going with both my blogs (I also run Discovering Charlotte which is focused on health, food and lifestyle) as I am not here to make money. I am here to spread my message and hopefully help other people.

I then followed them to the meet and greet and honestly thought I was going to be sick in the que! They say never meet your Idols but I had a really long chat with Megan about body positivity and thin privilige. I honestly thought I could have stood there and chatted all day!

I then made my way to the VIP lounge which was my biggest dissapointment of the day. Let me tell you know the vip ticket is not worth it in the slightest for three reasons.

1. The Goody Bag. I don't like to complain about goody bags when they are freebies but when they are a perk of the upsell on a ticket I feel it is fair game. A tote bag, some low priced make up and some yours pierced earrings I could have done without. In fact the goody bags that very were giving out to everyone were much better.

2. The VIP catwalk seating. There was plenty of seating at the catwalk and so having reserved seats was neither here nor there. Also they were in blocks at the side, when I have been to other similar events they have had the front row reserved for VIP which personally I prefer.

3. The VIP Lounge. Well this was totally pants. After being sold as being decorated by debenhams there was a lot of plastic seating and again not worth the money as there was plenty of seating around the venue.

After that it was on to the shopping! I am lucky as a size 16/18 that most high street stores still cater to me (and you all know I mostly charity shop anyway) but I was really excited by a few of the brands there! Firstly I bought a gym top from OBD Clothing which I am waiting to arrive (and will feature in a post when it arrives)

I also discovered two new to me brands Apples and Pears Clothing and Plus Equals. Apples and Pears were having a sale but I just felt too hot and sweaty to try anything on even though most brands had changing rooms. Plus Equals are the brand of my dreams which sequins, feathers and all the bright colours. However they are a little out of my price range so I will be keeping an eye on them for special occasions and when I want to spend a little more.

It was also really nice to see online retailers such as Lindy Bop, Very and Navabi as I could really feel the quality in their pieces. Again i didnt have the budget to purchase anything but I know now that in the future I would be happy to purchase from these brands online.

I didn't hang around after this, I was too hot and I just needed to get out. I am sad that I missed Megans book signing (I did buy her book though!) but I just couldnt stay any longer. All in all I am hoping to go again next year, but next time I will stick with a standard ticket, VIP was not worth it.

Did you go to the Curve Fashion Festival? I would love to know what you thought!

Charlotte Lucy